Good Morning DeGens! Happy New Year!
It has been a long time since the last post. A lot of things have happened. My coaching service went live. DeGen University was announced. We started a new year and everything went nuts.
That doesn’t mean that this project was left in the dust. Since Episode 6 I’ve been doing a lot of research to bring you the best possible content I can provide. My life experiences and my way of thinking are good content, yes. But at the same time, I find it necessary to make sure I’m not making a serious mistake that ends up putting my readers in a worse situation than they were before.
It’s a matter of responsibility.
If you’ve been reading my threads since Episode 6, then you already know my change of perspective on the subject and you will not learn anything new here.
What’s new?
After doing some research, and digging deeper into how I was feeling at the time of my journey, I discovered something quite important.
The root of some people’s struggles with socializing is not a lack of skill but more of a mental health issue that is holding them back.
Insecurities, lack of confidence, trauma, low to none self-esteem. Anything that relates to how someone views themselves (their sense of identity/ego). Something that they want to hide from others or something that makes them act in a way that scares off people.
Is not that they don’t know how to talk. Is that they want to accomplish something too abstract (succeeding in a social interaction, which has no meaning) and they don’t know how to achieve it. So they falsely think that just by learning social skills they will be able to hide their persona.
The problem is that it doesn’t solve the underlying issue.
How the person perceives itself.
This means that my future substacks will keep this in mind.
Fixing your mental health issues is our priority.
In the following weeks, I’ll make updates to my older posts (you will be notified and all the changes will be listed on a separate episode so you don’t have to read everything again).
The How to Stop Being Weird series will still focus on the social skills topic.
And I think it will be finished in 4 or 5 more episodes. When the series is completed, I’ll make another one focused on mental health which will be paid.
After everything is completed I’ll compile everything into a book and sell it cheap for everyone.
Concerning the time since last publishing, don’t worry. I left you with everything you need to master the basics. Episodes 2 to 6 should take 3 or 4 months to understand and internalize the concepts to a degree in which you can move into the next step.
By now you should be comfortable approaching people and having simple conversations with them. You should be able to start understanding people and understanding yourself, and you should be able to use that information to read a room plus be able to react accordingly.
If you can do neither of those things then you didn’t practice enough or your issue is more severe and deserves professional treatment.
Both series will no longer be weekly.
I have a lot of projects going on right now so the focus I can give to my substack is limited (for now). This doesn’t mean you will get 1 post a month. At least every other week (or maybe 2 in the same week, who knows) you should see another episode going live.
And this is it for today!
With this, you should be up to date with what was happening. If you want to start the year with a good roadmap of what to do, you can read all of my substacks again (after the edits) and contrast them with your notes (that you SHOULD have been taking btw) and tell us about your progress here!
Good luck, Anon.
Leviathan out.